Let’s all agree that social media has completely changed relationship dynamics, especially in the world of disclosure. We confess and we invite and we watch while the likes, retweets, replies and blocks. All along, whether we’re they who post or they who read, we can’t deny the car crash affect effect that occurs when a relationship issue is exposed for the world to see. And in the spirit of accidents, let’s count the ten reasons relationship problems don’t belong on social media.

Even with survivors comes injury. Someone has gotten out of a bad situation and they’d like to tell the world of their plight. And even as they have momentary feelings of pleasure through sharing, there are long term injuries to their reputation. People know who the sharers are but a ‘like’ to a comment or a comment of support doesn’t mean there isn’t a negative perception. “Why do they always complain?” “They let this happen to them and now they want a pity party?”

And here come the rebuttal witnesses. Care to share a comment and invite opposing views? Go ahead. Now a moment shared is a moment scrutinized and that reputation hit we walked through in Reason 10 is being exponentially increased. You may not get your license back. This is especially true for repeat offenders. Simply put, people don’t want to date someone that constantly has issues. You may have no passengers. Even if you get your license back, people may not want to ride with you.

You’re a survivor. Some attributes we like to bestow upon true survivors are strength, resilience and courage. Strength and resilience are, among other things, about doing the right thing, not the thing that feels right in the moment. Don’t be a car crash, there is far too much pain and suffering to deal with. There are other survivors to think about. Simply put, there were other people involved in the accident and they don’t need to be collateral damage or witnesses to the injury.